Be your self and avoid comparing your self to others. Accept your self as you''re now, but be willing to change. Be honest, honor your integrity and be emotionally open.

Look people directly within the eyes—steer clear of staring or glaring. When you communicate, concentrate on direct eye contact. This is an important non-verbal indicator of self-confidence and shows interest within the other person.

Find positive attributes in people. It is easy to find fault and negatives. Illuminating another’s positive attributes enhances their self-esteem and yours. You cannot recognize a positive attribute in another without having the same attribute. Thus, when you illuminate another’s positive attribute you are illuminating your own as well.

Write all the positive attributes about yourself and others—you can use this as a reminder when things seem difficult in the relationship.

Smile! Your smile is your best feature. Your smile is the window to your inner being—let your light shine for others to see.

Be affectionate daily with your significant other. Research shows that individuals who regularly give and receive affection live longer and are less stressed. Make a habit of greeting a loved one with a hug and a kiss.

Set boundaries—no matter how difficult—to take care of yourself.

Be clear about who you are and what you want—your limits regarding time, money, and things you will or won''t engage in.

Share your dreams, wishes and hopes, knowing that you might not complete them. Encourage your significant other/friends to share theirs.

Explore the options for taking care of recreational needs. Make a list of likes and dislikes and share this list with your significant other/friends. Ask them to share their needs as well.
List your priorities and do more things that give you energy.

Have fun—skip, sing, dance, be silly and let your self be carefree.

Take a mental health day without guilt or regret. Read a book, garden, take a walk, climb a hill, be near water, nature and fire, or sit and do nothing.

Give undivided time and attention each week to those close to you.

Say, NO without guilt or regret to requests outside your energy/boundary level.

Make time for friends. Friendships need nurturing.

Remember time spent with someone is a way of showing love.

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